Wednesday, August 29, 2012

“The Circumcision Decision”

Perfect just how God made him!

 
There is no American medical organization that recommends routine male infant circumcision yet our society continues to subject our babies to this mutilation. Although many people believe there are medical reasons to circumcise, studies show that there are no definitive results that indicate a medical purpose for removal of a newborn baby’s foreskin. What is the foreskin, where does the act of male circumcision originate from, and why do we still perform them today?  Looking back at the origins and history of male circumcision and taking into account currently available scientific evidence, it is clear that there is a physiologic purpose for the foreskin and that there is potential harm in removing it.
 
Westerners primarily view the foreskin as unnecessary.  This is as much a lie as is the thought that was believed up until approximately twenty years ago that babies do not feel pain. The foreskin is a double-layered, heavily nerve-laden and vascular structure that is an integral and normal part of the male anatomy.  It is a continuation of the skin on the shaft of the penis, and the inner foreskin is a mucous membranelike the inside of the eyelid or the mouth.  This mucosal area is present where the inner and outer foreskin meets.  Smooth muscle fibers keep it close to the glans but make it highly elastic. The foreskin is attached to the glans by a highly sensitive frenulum, which also helps return the foreskin over the glans.  The presence of specialized nerve endings called Meissner's Corpuscles have been reported in the foreskin, especially the rigid band, which is at the very end of the flaccid penis.  Meissner’s Corpuscles are abundantly present in the palm of your hand.  To understand the sensitivity involved, try rubbing the back of your hand and then the palm.  You will notice a difference in the amount of sensation. The five most sensitive areas of the penis have been documented to be on the foreskin and the glans is more sensitive in the uncircumcised penis.  This God given foreskin has many purposes.  In babies as well as adults, the foreskin protects the glans from abrasions and prevents unwanted bacteria from entering the urinary meatus.  Throughout a man’s life, the purpose of the foreskin is to protect the glans from the elements, injury, and from drying out.  The foreskin also has an important role in his sexual activity. In an adult male, the foreskin provides the additional skin needed for a full erection.  Due to the fact that the foreskin has thousands of these nerve endings, the Meissner’s Corpuscles, it enhances an intact man’s sensations. The gliding action produced by the foreskin and the glans working together reduces friction and gives pleasure to both the intact man and his partner. Surgical removal of the foreskin eliminates many fine-touch receptors from the penis, leaving a scar and causing the skin on the glans to be thickened and far less sensitive.
 
 
Fig. 1 Three Zones of Foreskin (Ronald Goldman, circumcision.org)
The term circumcision comes from the Latin word circumcises or circumcīdere, meaning to cut, or to cut around.  Today circumcision is known as the surgical removal of the skin that covers the tip of the flaccid penis, usually performed soon after birth. Circumcision rates are decreasing in the United States and the procedure is no longer widely recommended as a medical necessity by physicians. “In view of the acute, as well as long-term, risks from circumcision and the legal liabilities that might arise, it is timely for health professionals and scientists to re-examine the evidence on this issue and participate in the debate about the advisability of this surgical procedure.” Even today, many of the Jewish faith advocate against circumcision as it is commonly performed. (jewishcircumcision.org) 
            Let’s take a look Biblically as to where circumcision originated.  The ceremony was appointed by God to be the special badge of His chosen people, an abiding sign of their consecration to Him. It was established as a national ordinance in Genesis.  “This is my covenant, which ye shall keep, between me and you and thy seed after thee; every man child among you shall be circumcised. And ye shall circumcise the flesh of your foreskin; and it shall be a token of the covenant betwixt me and you.” (Genesis 17:10-11)  In compliance with the divine command, Abraham, though ninety-nine years old, was circumcised on the same day as his thirteen year old son Ishmael (Genesis 17:24-27).  As commanded slaves, whether home-born or purchased, were circumcised as well (Genesis 17:12-13).  All foreigners had to have their males circumcised before they could enjoy the privileges of Jewish citizenship (Ex. 12:48-50).  During the journey through the wilderness, the practice of circumcision fell into disuse, but was resumed by the command of Joshua before they entered the Promised Land. “At that time the LORD said unto Joshua, Make thee sharp knives, and circumcise again the children of Israel the second time.” (Joshua 5:2-9)  It was to be observed for all generations following, among the tribes of Israel. 
 
However, circumcision isn’t mentioned from Canaan till the time of Christ.  As a rite of the church it ceased when the New Testament times began.  “For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision availeth anything, nor uncircumcision, but a new creature.” (Galatians 6:15) “Where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond nor free: but Christ is all, and in all.” (Colossians 3:11)  Some Pharisees wanted to impose circumcision on the Gentile converts.  “And certain men which came down from Judaea taught the brethren, and said, except ye be circumcised after the manner of Moses, ye cannot be saved.” (Acts 15:1) “But there rose up certain of the sect of the Pharisees which believed, saying, that it was needful to circumcise them, and to command them to keep the law of Moses.” (Acts 15:5)  But the apostle Peter quickly debased them.  “And the apostles and elders came together for to consider of this matter.  And when there had been much disputing, Peter rose up, and said unto them, Men and brethren, ye know how that a good while ago God made choice among us, that the Gentiles by my mouth should hear the word of the gospel, and believe. And God, which knoweth the hearts, bare them witness, giving them the Holy Ghost, even as he did unto us; and put no difference between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith. Now therefore why tempt ye God, to put a yoke upon the neck of the disciples, which neither our fathers nor we were able to bear.” (Acts 15:6-10) Jeremiah declares “Behold, the days come, saith the LORD, that I will punish all them which are circumcised with the uncircumcised;” (Jeremiah 9:25)
 



It is important to discuss the procedure as it is performed now compared to how it was performed Biblically.  Instead of immediately doing the surgery within a day or two after birth the Jewish ceremony was/is traditionally held on the eighth day of the newborn baby’s life.  “And in the eighth day the flesh of his foreskin shall be circumcised.” (Leviticus 12:3)  Circumcision, as it was commanded by God, was not the removal of the foreskin at all, but a “cutting” of the foreskin.  God intended circumcision to be done as a seal for the old covenant, a shedding of blood, not to inflict pain and suffering on the child.  The word used in Abraham’s command was Namal, which means “clipped”, like you clip your nails or hair.  Another word that was used is Muwl, which means to “curtail, to blunt, to cut shorter”.  If you blunt a knife you dull it, you do not cut off a part of it.  The Hebrew language has different words for “cut off” and “remove”.  Also, if they would have done circumcision as it is performed now in antiquity it would be hard to have sustained the child’s life.  The modern circumcision was integrated into society as a so- called “cure for masturbation”.  Jewish circumcision started about 2,000 years before Jesus came. This was so the people would understand the purpose of the Old Covenant before the New Covenant came into being. When Jesus came, he was circumcised by the seemingly redundant end of the foreskin extending beyond the tip of the glans being removed, called “Milah”, hens the Bris Milah, and it was the beginning of his sacrifice.  With this form of circumcision the penis would still have a lot of foreskin and it could develop naturally, for the most part.  The highly sensitive frenulum would not have been disturbed and would still function resulting in minimal loss of sensation and the glans would have remained protected.  If you look at a picture of Michelangelo’s David, his genitalia represent a Milah circumcision.  Around 140 A.D. a second step was added to the circumcision called “Periah”, meaning tearing and stripping back of the inner mucosal lining including removing the frenulum.  This was done so young Jewish men could not “fake” being uncircumcised. “Routine” Infant Circumcision was introduced during the late 1800's and throughout the 1900's on the pretext that it offered health and hygiene benefits, would stop the habit of masturbation, and proffered an endless list of presumed cures for a variety of ailments and diseases. As mother's opted to use physicians to give birth in hospitals or clinics, rather than using a midwife for home birth, the practice of routine circumcision of male infants blossomed and became nearly universal.  As one would expect, many of those experienced in the procedure were Jewish physicians and mohels. They taught new physicians to perform the surgical procedure as was practiced by Jewish ritual circumcision procedures. This meant that most infants underwent a fairly radical complete form of circumcision. What was performed was the Jewish "Milah" followed by "Periah", with most (if not all) of the foreskin being removed and the frenulum either severely damaged or completely removed. This remains the routine infant circumcision procedure to this day.
Cutting of newborn baby boys genitalia continues even though countless questions are growing regarding the procedure’s medical justification.  The surgery is normally performed without anesthetic and it is observably painful. The most common type of circumcision surgery performed in the United States is done using a Gomco Clamp.  For a detailed demonstration of the procedure you can visit http://newborns.stanford.edu/Gomco.html for the sake of this paper the details are as follows.  The baby is strapped down on a restraint board and the penis is thoroughly cleaned and inspected or malformations.  If anesthetic is chosen, two injections of Lidocaine are used (one on each side of the penis). The penis is then draped and instruments called hemostats are used to clamp onto the foreskin and stretch it toward the doctor.  A straight hemostat is then inserted inside the foreskin and the connective tissue is forcefully torn away from the glans. Natural separation would occur closer to adulthood.  As a guide, the foreskin is then crushed by one of the hemostats, both to hopefully reduce bleeding and to aide in where to cut.  The foreskin is then pushed back manually to behind the glans and the frenulum cut, if not already separated.  Careful consideration must be used due to the artery that is close by the frenulum.  The foreskin is then brought back over the glans and a metal bell is put in place to help protect the glans from the clamp and scalpel.  The two sides of the foreskin are safety pinned together and the hemostats removed.  The Gomco clamp can now be positioned and the amount of foreskin to be removed estimated.  With the device tightened as far as it will go a scalpel is used to amputate the foreskin.
 
Many males throughout these past decades have suffered the lasting physical, psychological, and sexual dysfunctional consequences of routine circumcision, which they did not choose.  Men have expressed their feelings as likened to violation, torture, mutilation, and sexual assault. (Boyle)  Circumcision is an extremely painful, unnecessary, cosmetic surgery, which can have dire consequences. (Ronald Goldman, Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma)  “About a million people a year, newborn babies, lose a normal, healthy, functional, pleasurable, protective body part without their consent”, said Georganne Chapin, executive director of Intact America, an anti-circumcision advocacy group.  It is important as a culture that we say “whole” or “intact” instead of uncircumcised because this would imply that circumcised is the accepted norm, thus damaging the psyche of all effected in our society.    For the most painful parts of the circumcision surgery there is no anesthetic currently in use that has been found effective.  During a study to determine the common anesthetics researchers found the surgery to be so traumatic to the baby that they stopped the study so no further babies would be subjected to such pain.  They found not just pain but an increase in choking and difficulty breathing. Many complications can arise during and after surgery including amputation, serious infection, and even death. Adverse effects go beyond the initial healing period immediately post-op.  A study was conducted following circumcised boys and concluded an alarming 55% rate of complications. It has been stated that 45% of baby boys will have to have corrective surgery for their initial circumcision. Bleeding can be especially serious. A baby only needs to lose 1 ounce of blood to hemorrhage, and just 2.3 ounces to die as a result of this blood loss. It can, and does, occur at a frightening quick pace. The rate of complications occurring in the hospital and during the first year has been estimated as high as 38% and includes hemorrhage, infection, surgical injury, and in rare cases death.  “More newborn baby boys die from circumcision surgery each year in the United States than from choking, vehicle accidents, suffocation from SIDS, from sleep positioners, and from (the recently banned) drop-side cribs.”
Sadly, contributing to the continuance of the procedure, the surgically removed foreskin is surprisingly marketable.  Foreskins obtained from circumcision procedures are frequently used by biochemical and micro-anatomical researchers to study the structure and proteins of human skin. In particular, foreskins obtained from newborns have been found to be useful in the manufacturing of more human skin.  Human growth factors derived from newborns' foreskins are used to make a commercial anti-wrinkle skin cream, TNS Recovery Complex.  Foreskins of babies are also used for skin graft tissue, and for β-interferon-based drugs.



Wednesday, May 2, 2012

"Living Foods for our Living Bodies"


An enzyme, (ěn'zīm), as defined in The American Heritage Science Dictionary is: “Any one of numerous proteins produced in living cells that accelerate or catalyze the metabolic processes of an organism.  Enzymes are usually very selective in the molecules that they act upon, called substrates, often reacting with only a single substrate. The substrate binds to the enzyme at a location called the active site just before the reaction catalyzed by the enzyme takes place. Enzymes can speed up chemical reactions by up to a million fold, but only function within a narrow temperature and pH range, outside of which they can lose their structure and become denatured. Enzymes are involved in such processes as the breaking down of the large protein, starch, and fat molecules in food into smaller molecules during digestion, the joining together of nucleotides into strands of DNA, and the addition of a phosphate group to ADP to form ATP. The names of enzymes usually end in the suffix- ase.” There are over 5,000 enzymes and each with a specific job to do.  Let’s take a closer look at the role of enzymes in our body’s digestion.



We know of at least 40+ essential nutrients that are required in specific amounts for the human body to function properly.  The term "essential" in regards to nutrition means that the body cannot make the nutrient itself and it must come from the food we consume or by taking supplements.  In addition to carbohydrates, fats, proteins, and water there are at least 13 vitamins and 20 minerals required for proper metabolic function.  Once consumed the foods containing these nutrients need to be digested, meaning they must be broken down and reduced to a state that the nutrients can be absorbed into and transported by the blood stream to all parts of the body.  Our body's cells are designed to direct each nutrient to combine and interact with other nutrients and chemicals to create still additional chemicals and compounds.  Which, in turn, are used to build and repair the bodies; cells, organs, tissues, and bone structures.  This process is called metabolism. Each metabolic reaction is started, controlled, and terminated by enzymes.  Without enzymes, no metabolic activity will occur. A body that does not consistently and efficiently metabolize the essential food nutrients necessary cannot maintain overall health. 

Most foods, when consumed raw, contain enough natural food enzymes to be digested. When you heat food higher than 118 degrees the enzymes are destroyed and can no longer assist in the digestive process.  Our body must then internally create the needed amount of digestive enzymes to handle the digestive task.  The more we depend on our internally generated digestive enzymes, the more stress we put on our body's systems and organs and the less time these systems and organs have for rebuilding and replacing worn out and damaged cells and keeping our immune system strong.

Eating raw food is necessary for overall health and is an important feature of a healthy diet. But that does not mean that one’s entire diet has to be raw to be in excellent health. It also does not mean eating an all raw diet is the healthiest way to eat. It is healthier to expand your nutrient density, your absorption of plant protein and your nutrient diversity with the inclusion of some conservatively cooked foods in your diet (i.e.…steamed, stewed, & soups). 

Your body’s top priority is making sure it has enough nutrients to run its systems. This means digesting food and converting it into nutrients. There is no activity more important to the body than this. This takes a lot of energy and enzymes, particularly if the body must make most or all of these enzymes because of heated or processed foods.  Remember that no food can be digested without enzymes.



SOURCES:

Fuhrman, M.D., Joel (2011).  Eat to Live.  New York: Little, Brown and Company.

“Your Digestive System and How it Works.” digestive.niddk.nih.gov. National Digestive Diseases Information Clearinghouse (NDDIC),

Web.  April 2008.

"Enzyme." The American Heritage® Science Dictionary. Houghton Mifflin Company. 28 Jan. 2012. <Dictionary.com http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/enzyme>.

“Enzyme.” wikipedia.org. Phenylketonuria: NCBI Genes and Disease. Retrieved 4 April 2007.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

VISIT THE NEW WEBSITE!!!

Yeah!!  I finally have an official website!! www.joyfulbirthing.net
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God bless~~ Nancy

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

"What Would You Recommend?"

I would like to put together a playlist/CD of music to use for my Doula clients if they would like to use it.  I plan to use it during different times during the upcoming childbirth education classes as well.  I have not been successful as I would have hoped at finding things online that were already put together. 

I need your suggestions!!

Please help!!  Leave your comments below!!

Let's Get it Sarted!!

This is awesome!  Mom is so excited to meet her new little boys!  I LOVE that Dad is so involved!  This Momma seriously "Rocks"  she is beautiful, motivated, & empowered!!  Mom writes on youtube: “Trying to induce our twins at 40+ weeks after trying everything else. I went into labor two days later and had a natural, un-medicated hospital birth (with the support of my awesome husband and our amazing midwives).” Let’s get it started!

Enjoy =}


"Music to Soothe You"

Friday, November 4, 2011

Friday, October 28, 2011

Letter to Mother-to-Be


October 2011
 
Dear Beautiful & Amazing Momma,


“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made:
marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”
(Psalms 139:14)
     To begin to embrace your pregnancy and the upcoming birth of your new little blessing you must first realize the significance of your own creation.  Our Heavenly Father, whom is the creator of all, created you.  Yes…you! “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” (Genesis 1:27)   The Bible does not say God only created those that would believe in Him.  It declares He is the author of everything!  “Thou, even thou, art LORD alone; thou hast made heaven, the heaven of heavens, with all their host, the earth, and all things that are therein, the seas, and all that is therein, and thou preservest them all; and the host of heaven worshippeth thee.” (Nehemiah 9:6)   “And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.” (Genesis 1:31)  You are amazing; you are beautiful, you are important!  No matter what lies have been fed to you throughout your lifetime you must receive the truth!  What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” (1 Corinthians 6:19)  Pray and ask God to forgive you for not viewing yourself as the amazing creation that He has formed you to be.  Then ask God to help you embrace the truth of your beauty in Him.
     Momma, did you know that the first command God gave to man was to have children.   And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” (Gen 1:28)  Again, God gave this same command after the flood, “And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.(Genesis 9:1)  “And he will love thee, and bless thee, and multiply thee: he will also bless the fruit of thy womb,” (Deuteronomy 7:13) God was clear in what he wanted us to do.  At that time they did not question God or his direct command, they had walked with God, heard His voice, and survived the destruction of every living thing upon the Earth.  In the times we live in today, sadly, most people do not know God enough to rest in these commands.  Well, not only did He create you, command you to bring forth children for His glory, but He wants you to understand that He is in control of your womb.  Here are some scriptures verifying this truth.  Please read them with an open heart!  Pray and ask God to reveal the truth to you.  “And when the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren.” (Genesis 29:31)  “And God remembered Rachel, and God hearkened to her, and opened her womb.” (Genesis 30:22)  Next is one of my favorite scriptures relating to childbearing, it speaks clearly of how intimate the miracle of conception is “And the LORD visited Sarah as he had said, and the LORD did unto Sarah as he had spoken.” (Gen 21:1)

     Not only does God open and close the womb at His discretion, He is like the skillful hands that knit together a spectacular garment.  It is beyond our comprehension how a life with mind, body, and soul can be created in the womb.  Not long ago in our history we knew nothing scientifically about conception, a baby’s growth in the uterus, and the miracle of birth compared to now.  Even still with all the technology that the world has, scientists remain unable to completely figure it all out.  Which might I add that I truly love! “As thou knowest not what is the way of the spirit, nor how the bones do grow in the womb of her that is with child: even so thou knowest not the works of God who maketh all.” (Ecclesiastes 11:5) “Thus saith the LORD, thy redeemer, and he that formed thee from the womb, I am the LORD that maketh all things; that stretcheth forth the heavens alone; that spreadeth abroad the earth by myself;” (Isaiah 44:24)  “Did not he that made me in the womb make him? and did not one fashion us in the womb?” (Job 31:15)  Some things we do know however.  Such as the moment one sperm cell from your husband and one tiny egg traveling through your fallopian tube came into contact, your unborn child was conceived.  Hormones at this same time began preparing your uterus to be a soft, nourishing environment for the ball of life to nestle and continue to grow.  Miraculously, each new cell knows exactly what to do.  Some will divide and become the placenta, others the amniotic sac, and each tiny part of your baby.  At just forty days from the time of conception, brain waves can be detected.  At two months your baby has everything formed and will just continue to grow in size.  From the eight week on your little blessing can respond to touch thanks to the wonderful relationship God gave us between our nervous system and muscles.  Around three months it will be clear what you are expecting, boy or girl?  He or she will even have primitive egg or sperm cells.  Your baby sleeps, wakes, breathes, drinks, digests, & secretes amniotic fluid.  Amazingly, the vocal cords are complete now and your baby would cry if she could.
“Even by the God of thy father, who shall help thee; and by the Almighty, who shall bless thee with blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that lieth under, blessings of the breasts, and of the womb:” (Genesis 49:25)

     Not only is God the one that opens and closes the womb, it is he that crafted the woman’s body to grow a life within her.  There are so many changes in your body that take place while you are pregnant.  From the hormones that are released to speak to every part of your being, body systems that restructure their cycles, to the bony structures that know to relax to accommodate the life within you.  Like a perfectly engineered masterpiece!  If that is not incredible enough God also orchestrates labor and birthing.  But thou art he that took me out of the womb: thou didst make me hope when I was upon my mother's breasts.” (Psalms 22:9)  “I was cast upon thee from the womb: thou art my God from my mother's belly.” (Psalms 22:10)  “By thee have I been holden up from the womb: thou art he that took me out of my mother's bowels: my praise shall be continually of thee.” (Psalms 71:6)  “Hearken unto me, O house of Jacob, and all the remnant of the house of Israel, which are borne by me from the belly, which are carried from the womb:” (Isa 46:3) “Shall I bring to the birth, and not cause to bring forth? saith the LORD: shall I cause to bring forth, and shut the womb? saith thy God.” (Isa 66:9)  “But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mother's womb, and called me by his grace,” (Gal 1:15)

     Your Heavenly Father does not want His child to be tormented with fear.  As you seek the best for your child God too desires the best for you.  “We love him, because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)  You might not be able to grasp this wonderful promise yet.  Pray and ask God to help you rest in his word!  “The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:” (Romans 8:16) “Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. (Romans 8:26)  There is no place for fear in childbirth it actually can hinder the birthing process.  Think about what you know of the animal kingdom, if there is an impending danger the laboring animal such as the deer will stop labor until it can get to a safer place or the threat passes.  Fear can prevent your labor from progressing as it should.  How, you might ask?  It is similar to the Fight-or-Flight Response in that your sympathetic nervous system controls your bodily functions.  Such as increased heart rate, paleness or flushing, slowed digestion, loss of hearing, tunnel vision, effects on the sphincters, inhibited erections in men, relaxation of the bladder, and shakiness to name a few.  We must eliminate our fears and there is only so much we can do on our own.  It is humanly impossible to overcome them all on our own.  We must rely on God to help us! “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” (1 John 4:18)  The birth of your child is just that, your birth, how you experience it will be just as unique as you are.  However, there is one thing that will always be true.  God is in control!  “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)  Believe in the promises that your birth experience will be exactly as God has intended.  “Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth.” (Mark 9:23)  “And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.” (Mark 10:27)  “And he said, Abba, Father, all things are possible unto thee; take away this cup from me: nevertheless not what I will, but what thou wilt.” (Mark 14:36) 

     I pray you will embrace the truth that you are such a beautiful and amazing woman, perfectly created to be a vessel God can use to bring forth children, bringing glory to His name! 



God Bless,


Nancy F. Prevatt, RN

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Sorry For the Inconvenience!!

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Thursday, September 15, 2011

My Breech Baby/Cesarean Birth Story


"This is the birth story of Ethan Troy!"

I must go back just a bit and begin this story at the union of two hearts.  It may sound unbelievable but my husband & I first met during a celebration for a tree.  What, you may say?  The little town that my family had moved to in sunny, southwest Florida has a festival each February to celebrate the history of the unique Swamp Cabbage Palm tree.  It was my sophomore year and school let out early this particular Friday in honor of the events.  I rode with a friend to a field to see where the fun would take place throughout the weekend.  Some others must have had the same idea because there was a group of guys that we bumped into that warm day.  He had the most beautiful blue eyes I had ever seen!  When I asked my friend who he was she was quick to tell me his name and to warn me to stay away.  That moment I knew he was the one!!

Skip ahead now to February 14th, 1997 when we vowed to be together forever!  We were married in the presence of God & our parents.  We had our love for one another and that was all we needed.  On the 8th of April 1998 I took a pregnancy test while at my mother and father's house and discovered we were going to have a baby.   I met my husband on the stairs outside of their stilt home and gave him the good news.  We were overjoyed!  Amazingly it was like we both already knew.  The test was just the confirmation.  Our first thoughts were that God had blessed us with a miracle.  We had been trying for just a little over three months and felt truly blessed!  We celebrated by telling everyone we knew then spent the evening dreaming of our future with this little gift. 

We had a tumultuous 9 months!  I was in my first semester of nursing school and my husband was working long, hard hours.  It was trying & tiring to say the least.  Money was tight and emotions ran high!  My pregnancy was littered with stress, poor nutrition, and long nights studying.  I was diagnosed with Pregnancy Induced Hypertension (PIH) and Mild Ecclampsia.  The last month of my pregnancy I was placed on bed rest which affected every area of my life.  Each week I traveled to Cape Coral or Ft. Myers to see my Obstetrician.  However, the last several weeks I saw a different doctor each visit, all saying my little boy was head down & in position getting ready for his birth.  On November 23rd, 1998 I finally got to see my OB.  As soon as he felt my belly he said, "That is not a head!"  They brought in an ultrasound machine & verified that he was in a complete breech position.  He asked me, "Do you want to have this baby TODAY?"  Without hesitating I replied, "Yes!"  However, I had eaten that morning so surgery was out of the question. 

My doctor tried to get the little guy to turn by external version, but he refused to turn!  I didn't realize going into the procedure what I was in for.  They sent me over to the hospital which was just down the street from the office.  I was hooked up to all the possible monitors and given an IV.  It was explained to me that I had to receive an IV med to help relax my uterus so it would allow the doctor's efforts to work.  My mother-in-law was with me that day and I had never seen that born-again, Holy Ghost filled, little lady get so angry!!  She was seated near the foot of my bed and could tell I was in so much pain!  Finally the OB stopped and decided a cesarean must be scheduled.  I immediately contacted my husband to let him know his son would be born in two days.

It was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.  I was given permission to break my "No Sodium Diet" and eat whatever I wanted the next day up until Midnight.  A close family friend and my husband went to town and brought me home a sinful supper (A Big Mac & french fries).  Talk about a sodium overdose!  All I knew was that I didn't have to be pregnant anymore.  It had not been my favorite season of life.  My entire pregnancy I felt huge, unattractive, and cumbersome.  Even though my husband didn't act repulsed by my ever growing body.  I was not one of those graceful looking pregnant ladies that didn't even appear pregnant from behind.  You know who you are!  My sister-in-law was one of those lucky, skinny, basketball belly gals.  I however, gained weight from my head to my toes.  My attire at the end of my pregnancy consisted of stretchy dresses & flip flops even though it was November. 


I arrived at Cape Coral Hospital very early in the morning.  Hungry, extremely thirsty, and scared to death!  The nurses had a difficult time getting my IV started and my first experience with a Foley catheter was not a good one (it would take over a year to fully heal). 


Alas, our little boy was here!  My husband was in the operating room with me.  He held my hand as he watched them pull our child out of me.  He was incredibly strong because I know now that he was horrified but he kept me calm by the smile on his face & the gleam in his eye!  Thank goodness a nurse in the room took the camera from him and snapped a few photos for us.  They handed Ethan to my husband he kissed him then held him down by my face so I could kiss him. 


Our beautiful little blessing was finally here! Ethan Troy was born at 9:20 am on November 25th, 1998 weighing 7 lbs 13 oz and measuring 20 in long. His cry immediately filled the room and touched my heart!

Unfortunately, there isn't a lot more I remember from the operating room or recovery after this other than vomiting while still on the table and being very cold requiring more & more warm blankets in recovery.  My husband walked back to our room, where family & friends anxiously awaited, holding our son.  No one knew when he first walked in, they say.  I am sure it was an emotional moment for our parents too!  Welcoming their new grandchild (or first for some of them) into the world.  It would be quite a while longer before I would join them.



After a while I was brought into our room and reunited with the tiny blessing that had been growing inside of me for nine months.  He was amazing!  As I attempted to nurse him for the first time I remember the nurse telling me that it was, "okay if it took a few tries and that sometimes it takes a while for both of you to figure out" and my father telling me, "Oh no he knows what to do just watch and see!" Well, we did know just what to do.  He latched right on and began to nurse.  I was mesmerized! 


 
This was my journey into motherhood and my son's journey into this world! 


Wednesday, September 14, 2011

The Assessment of Progress by Midwife Thinking


"The idea that birth should be efficient originated in the 17th century when men used science to re-define birth [1]. The body was conceptualised as a machine and birth became a process with stages, measurements, timelines, and mechanisms. This belief continues to underpin our approach to childbirth today."


Friday, September 9, 2011

"The Power of Positivity"

"10 Positive Things I Gained From My Cesareans"

1)  I learned to fully trust my Husband! 
The first time I had to walk to the shower he took me. 
I felt so vulnerable and feeble.  He made me feel safe.  It was as if he was saying with no words,
"No matter what you have to go through, we will go through it together." He could have called for the nurse.  Trust me it was not so pretty and he was there every step of the way

2) I realized God had a purpose for my life & the lives I would help welcome into this world!
You know, we often do not acknowledge all of the times in our lives
when we could be gone forever as God ordained. 
After my surgery I had difficulties and remained in recovery for over an hour after
my husband arrived back in the room to show Ethan to our family & friends.
It only seemed like moments to me but I wasn't quite with it. 
Even still back in my room my uterus wasn't shrinking properly
and I had to have additional IV meds for the bleeding.
With each cesarean it seems I learned of a new narcotic I was allergic to.  Yikes! 
I am certain God did not keep me through all of this for no reason!

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. (Psalms 127:4-5)

3) I learned how much pain I could actually tolerate!

4) I learned how much perseverance I really had!
I had my first child & major abdominal surgery just a couple weeks prior to
my final exams for my first semester of nursing school.  I only got to be with him for 6 weeks
before returning to school.  Off I would go with my school bag (on wheels), purse, pump bag, & cooler for the milk.  Soon after that with a change in child care I would add to that: baby, diaper bag, cooler of milk, & bouncy seat (because he LOVED it) 
for my sister-in-law who lived in the Cape then to school in Ft. Myers.

5) I learned I relied too heavily on my OB's advice!
When we were expecting our second baby, Kiley, in 2001
I was so excited about having her naturally!  However, when I enthusiastically told my OB, whom I felt close to after seeing him for almost an entire year, for annuals (which is hummm...very personal) and now only one and a half year after the first birth, he shot me down! 
His reply was, "Oh no, you don't want to do that! 
You could rupture and you, your baby, or you both could die! I advise against it!"
Well, that was all I needed to hear.  I worked with Hospice at the time and seen lots
of death & dying and I knew I didn't want that!

6) I realized I needed to have a closer relationship with God and stronger faith!
With my third child, Gavin, born in 2007 I again wanted to try to have a vaginal birth.  Preferably in the water.  At that time they were "Not Aloud"!  However, my OB's office told me I was more than welcome to have my baby at home by myself!  I did not have enough faith and chose to have a third cesarean.  Fear is very powerful!

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and leannot unto thine own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5)

7) I accepted that regardless of the mode of entry I had been blessed!
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (Pslams 127:3)

8) It made me desire to learn & share with others!
I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishness and madness: (Ecclesiastes 7:25)

9) It gave me compassion toward other woman who have experienced a cesarean!

10) They have made me the woman I am today!

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Miscarriage & Loss




When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. For I [am] the LORD thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Saviour: (Isaiah 43:2-3)

For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: And though after my skin worm destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another; though my reins be consumed within me.  (Job 19: 5-27)

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. (Psalms 147:3)


This is a wonderful link I have found for miscarriage & infant loss support! Please check them out if you have at anytime suffered a loss.Still Birthday

If you are miscarrying right now, or have just found out that when your pregnancy is over your baby will likely not survive, this website is the right place for you.
I am so very sorry.
I pray that this website will help you to:
  • learn a little bit about the kind of pregnancy loss you are having
  • learn about your baby’s most recent development in the womb
  • be able to see an actual picture of a baby that is the same size as yours (only if you wish). For greater accuracy, choose the age that your baby last measured at.
  • be able to read about another parent who lost their baby at the same age as yours (only if you wish)
  • learn more about the kinds of birth methods you might have for your baby
  • find ways to make the birth of your miscarried or stillborn baby meaningful
  • explore farewell celebrations that will help you grieve in a healthy way
  • come back to this site later, to utilize long term support services and resources listed here, and when you’re ready, to share your story, if you wish. You are always welcome back.



Another site is M.E.N.D. "Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death"  the publish a bi-monthly newsletter that can be read,  downloaded, & shared by visiting http://www.mend.org/support/news_library.asp
or by requesting a subscription here http://www.mend.org/support/news_subscriptions.asp





 I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. 
My help cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth. 
He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: he that keepeth thee will not slumber. 
Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. 
The LORD is thy keeper: the LORD is thy shade upon thy right hand
The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night. 
The LORD shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul. 
The LORD shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.  (Psalms 121)

“And though my heart is torn, I will praise You in this storm.”